Marriage Wisdom: Guard, Grow and Glorify God

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Marriage Wisdom: Guard, Grow, and Glorify God Together

Marriage is sacred and a covenant not a contract God created to help humans not to be alone. Some people have deep character issues and without therapy and healing should not be married . Choosing well in marriage can help reduce some of the major issues the Christian homes are facing currently. A lot of people never got married and completed amazing works for God e.g Apostle Paul. While some like Queen Esther, Ruth lived out marriage to save nations and create wonderful history. If you are single or married ask yourself this question ‘what will your (single or marriage ) legacy look like to the next generation- will it reflect God’s glory or be filled with shattered hopes and dreams. Here are a few nuggets to remember as a live out the covenant of marriage;

  1. Guard Your Privacy: Protect your relationship by limiting third-party involvement. Not everyone needs to know your struggles. Choose carefully and prayerfully who you confide in—some may not offer godly counsel.
  2. Seek God First: Before reacting, pray. Give situations time and space. Trust God to guide you to the right people and solutions.
  3. Communicate Wisely: Speak with grace. Avoid blaming or recounting offenses. Instead, express how situations made you feel. Your words have power—use them to build, not break.
  4. Minister Through Character: Let your behavior reflect Christ. You can minister, convert , teach your spouse not just through words, but through your actions, patience, and love.
  5. Be Transparent: Open communication and honesty foster growth. Don’t hide parts of yourself—grow together in understanding and unity.
  6. Know Each Other Deeply: Understand your spouse’s character, strengths, weaknesses, habits, and preferences. This builds empathy, intimacy, and connection.
  7. Reject Cultural Pressure: Don’t let societal expectations define your worth or roles. Not every wife enjoys cooking, and that’s okay. Marriage is about growth—be willing to learn where needed.
  8. Make Time for Each Other: Regularly set aside time to talk, connect, and enjoy each other’s presence. This strengthens your bond. Be friends, laugh, play, live and pray together
  9. Family Relationships Reflect Marriage: The way we treat siblings and parents often mirrors how we treat our spouse. Learn from past patterns—address issues like unforgiveness or holding grudges.
  10. Teach the Next Generation: Equip young people with biblical values and understanding about Christian marriage to help them choose wisely and prepare well. Teaching others make us better role models.
  11. Embrace the Journey: No matter how long you’ve been married, conflict will come. Learn to resolve issues in a godly and healthy way—through prayer, mentorship, and wise counsel.

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  1. AnonymousMay 12, 2025 at 8:58 PM

    Great read! More anointing in Jesus name! You have highlighted so many important points that we ignore in the hustle and bustle of our daily lives! May God continue to strengthen us on our journeys.

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