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Post pandemic marriage

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During the height of Covid, the world was in a lockdown state where non-essential workers had to stay home, with family and face all the issues we run away from or use our busyness to cover up - ourselves. As humans, we tend to quickly see other people as the problem, yes, your spouse can be highly annoying but if we begin to live life with this simple philosophy things might begin to look a little different. The philosophy is - I cannot control the actions of other, I can only control my reaction and influence the change I want to see. In marriage love is not enough. Something stronger than love can make a marriage break for example Abuse, o irresponsibility, infidelity or neglect. A successful marriage is a result of the application of knowledge and not the exchange of love. You can love something but not know how to do it. I love the piano, but I do not know how to play it, I have tried to learn but using both hands at the same time is a struggle for me. The Bible says peopl

Chosing a life partner

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  I was reading this book called friendship courtship and christian marriage written by Kayode Adesogan. A lot of people have been getting engaged during this lockdown and i think it's a great time to share some ideas about choosing a life partner, courtship, engagement and the whole deal.   When choosing a life partner here are several things to consider before embarking on this journey. The Cultural factor Language, religion, ethics, value, traditions and morals. It is important to consider the background and upbringing of your partner and how it differs from yours. Similarities are easy to recognise but it's important to identify the differences and consider how it might affect your relationship in the long term. Universal problems What are your passions. People go through different challenges in life and its important to note what inspires your partner. What gets you up in the morning?  Who do you blame, when you face a life changing problem like rape or loss ? There are a